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My Worst Fear About Dating After Divorce Came True, and I’m Glad
Being rejected because I was a mom helped me realize what I was actually looking for.
“That looked like goodbye,” the old man said.
He was right. It had started as our fourth date, and ended with a long hug on the sidewalk before we parted ways.
The old man had watched from his table at the sidewalk café. “What happened?” he asked now.
What had happened? I thought things had been going well, and then suddenly on this date, I had been confronted with the very type of rejection I feared most, as a divorced woman with two kids: He didn’t want to date a mom.
This especially stung because I was just starting to date again, six months after my divorce and a year and a half after we had agreed it was over between us. More to the point, I was just starting to date again after nearly 15 years as part of a couple.
I hadn’t felt in a hurry to start dating after my divorce, but within a few months, I had been asked out by friends of friends. To my surprise, I found I enjoyed these dates. I wanted to keep meeting people, and I was starting to feel like it would be nice to find someone I liked spending time with, maybe even to find a real partner again someday. I…
